“It’s all in your head, it was never about the weight” – quote from successful OA member.
That’s so true. When I first joined OA, I was desperate to lose weight. I thought OA might provide an easy answer.
But the longer I’ve been in OA, the more I’ve learned there are no easy answers. You can’t just sign up to something and magically, suddenly lose heaps of weight.
Life doesn’t work like that.
What I have learned is success follows action. You won’t lose weight until you perform the actions that result in weight loss.
Those actions are different for everyone, but for me that’s 2-3 meals and no snacks. Sometimes I have breakfast, sometimes I don’t. I also incorporate regular fasting and exercise into my plan. But the big thing is no snacking.
When I think back to how things were when I was a kid in the 1970s and pretty much everyone was lean, I remember how snacking was frowned upon.
We’ve got fatter as a society because 3 regular meals have become 6, or 8, or just one long meal that lasts all day.
The other difference is people eating out a lot more. These days it’s a regular hobby for many.
I was nine years old before I went to my first restaurant for dinner. I remember it clearly. And my experience was typical of our generation.
These days there are many people who don’t ever eat at home! I know some of them, and being overweight is the norm.
I don’t eat out very often, so that hasn’t been a huge problem for me. My problem is snacking. But for many people, the eating out incessantly is a huge part of their weight problem.
But yes, I’ve learned that my biggest mind game has been recognising that snacking causes weight gain. And some of the so-called ” healthy” snacks – often found in the “health food” section of the supermarket – are the worst offenders. The advertising is so slick they convince you a 500 calorie snack is “healthy”. It’s not, not for me.
When I stick to a regular plan of 3 meals a day, nothing in between, a daily walk and occasional fasting, I lose weight. When I don’t, I gain.
The mind game of this simple realisation is accepting the truth that restraint in my life – a balance with commonsense – is getting me closer to my goal.
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Like most, I stopped eating out during the pandemic. But I made it a goal to never go back to eating fast food or going to restaurants on the weekends. And I haven’t! I’ve eaten out twice since 2019. I don’t buy coffees out anymore either. And over those two years, I lost 100 pounds (I did the WW program, but used OA and Dharma Recovery for support). Preparing all of my food has taught me so much about what I am actually eating. One step at a time 🙂